When you love, you have to become nobody. If you remain somebody, then love never happens. When you love a person – even if for a single moment love happens and flows between two persons – there are two nothingnesses, not two persons. If you have ever had any experience of love, you can understand.

Two lovers sitting by each other’s side, or two nothingnesses sitting together, only then is the meeting possible because barriers are broken, boundaries thrown away. The energy can move from here to there, there is no hindrance, and only in such a moment of deep love is orgasm possible.

When two lovers are making love, and if they are both no-selves, nothingnesses, then orgasm happens. Then their body energy, their whole being, loses all identity; they are no longer themselves, they have fallen into the abyss. But this can happen only for a moment. Again they regain; again they start clinging. That’s why people also become afraid in love.

In deep love, people are afraid of going mad or of dying, afraid of what will happen. The abyss opens its mouth, the whole of existence yawns, and you are suddenly there and you can fall into it. One becomes scared of love, then people remain satisfied with sex and they call their sex love.

Love is not sex. Sex can happen in love, it can be a part, an integral part to it, but sex itself is not love; it is a substitute. You are trying to avoid love through sex. You are giving yourself a feeling that you are in love, and you are not moving into love. Sex is just like borrowed knowledge: giving a feeling of knowing without knowing, giving a feeling of love and loving without loving.

In love you are not, the other is also not. Only then, suddenly, the two disappear. The same happens in Mahamudra. Mahamudra is a total orgasm with the whole of existence.

That’s why in Tantra – and Tilopa is a tantric master – deep intercourse, orgasmic intercourse, between lovers is also called Mahamudra, and two lovers in a deep orgasmic state are pictured in Tantra temples, in Tantra books. That has become a symbol of the final orgasm.