"But you cannot undo it because the ego comes in between. You cannot even say, 'I am sorry.' Just a simple apology may disperse the tangle but the ego won't allow even that. And you are almost a victim; you are not doing things. Your unconsciousness, your unawareness goes on forcing you to do things.

"Just last night I answered Shunyo's question very lightly and very lovingly and very joyously. I joked about it, but she was pissed off – I could see her face. Milarepa was angry.

"You don't know what you are doing. What you are doing is almost beyond your hands; you are reacting. If Shunyo had heard what I was saying…I was simply saying, 'Don't take it seriously.' I was laughing about it, but she could not laugh. You all laughed because it was not your problem. The more you laughed the more you made her serious.

"In each person's life the time of change comes. And one of the greatest things to remember is that when you change a certain pattern of life, you have to change naturally. It is not in your hands. Biology makes you capable of sex at the age of thirteen or fourteen; it is not your doing.

"At a certain age, as you are coming closer to forty or forty-two, the biology's purpose is finished. All those hormones that have been propelling you are disappearing. To accept this change is very difficult. You suddenly start thinking as if you are no longer beautiful, that you need a face-lift.

"I have heard about a woman who was saying to the plastic surgeon, 'I need a face-lift.'

"The surgeon looked at her and he said, 'There is nothing wrong; it is just age. Don't be worried about it. Why unnecessarily go to the trouble? But the woman was insistent, so the doctor said, 'Okay, but it will cost five thousand dollars.'

"The woman said, 'That much money I don't have. Can't you suggest something cheaper?'

"The doctor said, 'Yes. You can purchase a veil.'

"It is one of the Western problems. In the East no woman is worried. Things are accepted as they come. Acceptance has been the basic foundation of Eastern life."