Love: Not a Relationship but a State of Being

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From:The Hidden Splendor

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"Maneesha, the word love can have two absolutely different meanings – not only different, but diametrically opposite. One meaning is love as relationship; the other meaning is love as a state of being.
"When I..."
"Maneesha, the word love can have two absolutely different meanings – not only different, but diametrically opposite. One meaning is love as relationship; the other meaning is love as a state of being.
"When I..."

Osho continues:
"It means you are simply loving; you are not creating a relationship out of it. Your love is just like the fragrance of a flower. It does not create a relationship; it does not ask you to be a certain way, to behave in a certain way, to act in a certain way. It demands nothing. It simply shares. And in sharing also there is no desire for any reward. The sharing itself is the reward.

"When love becomes like a fragrance to you, then it has tremendous beauty. And something that is far above the so-called humanity – it has something of the divine.

"You are saying, 'I cannot help….' Neither can I. When love is a state, you cannot do anything about it. It will radiate, but it will not create any imprisonments for anybody, nor will it allow you to be imprisoned by anybody else.

"Your question is significant. I will go into it point by point. You say, 'I heard you say….' This is to be remembered: whenever you state anything that I have said, never say, 'You said it.' Say it exactly the way Maneesha is doing. She has learned in many years' time that it is not necessarily the same, what I say and what you hear.

"You hear according to your own prejudices, according to your own mind. You interpret and then you project that meaning, as if I have said it. The right way is, 'I heard you say….' All the Buddhist scriptures start with the same sentence: 'I have heard Gautam Buddha say….'

"I asked one very respected Buddhist monk – world famous because of his writings about Gautam Buddha – why every scripture begins with, 'I have heard Gautam Buddha say….'

"He said, 'You bring strange questions. I have been translating these scriptures my whole life but I never thought about it. Do you think it has any meaning?'

"I said, 'It has not only meaning, it has tremendous meaning. Whoever was writing it was absolutely aware that, at the most, he could say, 'I have heard…perhaps Buddha was saying something else. Perhaps he was saying what I have heard, but I cannot impose my meaning, my projection on him."
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Publisher Osho International
Duration of Talk 109 mins
File Size 22.13 MB
Type Individual Talks